Never considered my tap water chemistry over the years of fish keeping as its never been as issue, other than the obvious removal of chlorine and chloramine, but I now live in north eastern Indiana and we have some really hard water - harder than most of the country.
If i was trying to keep cichlids, like I have in the past, our water apparently seems more than ideal. Is this a serious issue for keeping botia, or is stability of the GH, plus other parameters, more important? Thinking I could cheaply adjust hardness I bought API water softener pillows, but at 48 hours the perimeters haven't budged and added an unsightly yellow tinge to my previously crystal clear water. As far as I'm concerned they're junk against my water quality. I do a 25-35% water change weekly.
The reason I ask if since having set up the tank a few months ago I've killed quite a few. I've never kept botias - yoyos, angelicus, gold zebras - but I've become fascinated with their behavior and the ones I've brought home seemed healthy and eagerly eat bloodwooms, snails, algae wafers, algae pellets, ect. But I've lost quite few, that go from "seemingly healthy" to laying on their sides and wasting away in a week or two. I've treated for parasites, thinking they had wasting disease but I'm at a loss. Frankly the wife gets mad when I bring another one home, telling me I'm just throwing money away - especially since the other fish are thriving.
Is water water chemistry here just wrong for the species or is something else I'm missing? pH is around 8, nitrates 0, nitrites <20, but the gH is 180ish (non-German scale.) I'm willing to get a water softener, the house could use one anyways - from all the scale we get in the tubs/dishwater removed dishes - but is that really the issue with the botias? The LFS's i've talked to have told me the botias are hardy and it's a non-issue, but as I said I'm really second guessing the importance of this. I can't help but think our LFS have osmosis devices running in the background, and they might not understand the complexity of water chemistry. To the credit of several of the LFS the employees seem above average in intelligence to fish husbandry compared to your typical big box fish stores.
My tanks is heavily planted with crypts - that are thriving (more so than any planted tank I've ever kept! - give them flourish and excel periodically under the recommended dosage levels, 55 gal tank, two aquaclear 50's that I've mitigated the flow of to create less current with baffles since the angels clearly didn't like the installation of the second unit. I have 2 angels, 7 cherry barbs (that have grown exponentially since I first brought them home 3 months ago), 4 glow tetras, 1 giant fan tail goldfish (my sons favorite fish, he eats everything - the fish not my son

In December I plan on upgrading to a 125 to move over the botias if I can figure this issue out. The rest of the fish can stay in the 55 as far as I'm concerned since really we got the tank for my 4 year old son and the botias just became an obsession for me.
When i set the tank up a few months ago, I admittedly brought home several botias that were not in ideal condition and acknowledge their demise was likley from that. Heavy breathing, erratic behavior, ect. I also realise these fish prefer larger shoals, but there is limited availability here in my area. I stopped at a LFS today in Indianapolis, when I would out for work, that had angelicus, but the rest of the fish in tank had ich +several dead fish, so I obviously passed on bringing home the angelicuses. One thing that stood out though was the the tank had a note on it that said "some of the fish in this tank require reverse osmosis water, and cannot live in typical tap water," which only further reinforced my thought that my hardness is unacceptable.
Any thoughts? Thanks all!